Why Do We So Readily Blame the Victim? - The Chainlink2024-03-29T14:30:55Zhttps://thechainlink.org/forum/topics/why-do-we-so-readily-blame-the-victim?commentId=2211490%3AComment%3A1112545&feed=yes&xn_auth=noWhat Steve said.
Everyone is…tag:thechainlink.org,2018-12-30:2211490:Comment:11125552018-12-30T23:24:18.681ZMike Zumwalthttps://thechainlink.org/profile/MikeZumwalt
<p>What Steve said.</p>
<p>Everyone is distracted, don't pay attention or think the rules don't apply to them.</p>
<p>I've hit my fair share of pedestrians and every one of them had ear buds in, staring at their phones while walking in or across the street or can't understand what Red,Yellow or Green lights mean or the walk signals either.</p>
<p>Cyclists aren't perfect either (myself included) but when I see a person riding fixed texting or no lights I wonder what they're thinking? </p>
<p>What Steve said.</p>
<p>Everyone is distracted, don't pay attention or think the rules don't apply to them.</p>
<p>I've hit my fair share of pedestrians and every one of them had ear buds in, staring at their phones while walking in or across the street or can't understand what Red,Yellow or Green lights mean or the walk signals either.</p>
<p>Cyclists aren't perfect either (myself included) but when I see a person riding fixed texting or no lights I wonder what they're thinking? </p> Well we all do what we need t…tag:thechainlink.org,2018-12-30:2211490:Comment:11125452018-12-30T04:20:16.772ZSteve Fietehttps://thechainlink.org/profile/SteveFiete
<p>Well we all do what we need to get by. I think falsely attributing cause to bad unlucky events is common, and nearly universal. We seem to be hardwired to "overlearn" from bad outcomes.</p>
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<p>I met someone who refuses to park in the long-term lots at ohare because of one bad experience. An airport bus driver had a heart attack while the bus was moving and it hit his car. He was not in it, but he found out about it when he got back on a late flight and found his car missing in…</p>
<p>Well we all do what we need to get by. I think falsely attributing cause to bad unlucky events is common, and nearly universal. We seem to be hardwired to "overlearn" from bad outcomes.</p>
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<p>I met someone who refuses to park in the long-term lots at ohare because of one bad experience. An airport bus driver had a heart attack while the bus was moving and it hit his car. He was not in it, but he found out about it when he got back on a late flight and found his car missing in the lot. It does not cost much to avoid long-term parking (no more than cab far to and from the airport), but it's kind of crazy.</p> Thanks, that makes sense.tag:thechainlink.org,2018-12-28:2211490:Comment:11124332018-12-28T19:46:50.752ZYasmeenhttps://thechainlink.org/profile/YasmeenSchuller
<p>Thanks, that makes sense.</p>
<p>Thanks, that makes sense.</p> My understanding is victim bl…tag:thechainlink.org,2018-12-28:2211490:Comment:11124302018-12-28T19:45:08.893ZSteve Fietehttps://thechainlink.org/profile/SteveFiete
<p>My understanding is victim blaming helps the victim blamers feel safe. It is natural to want to feel safe in day-to-day activities, so we are in denial of risk. When something happens which shows the risk then if we can attribute the misfortune to some characteristic or action of the one harmed we can continue to believe that "it won't happen to me".…</p>
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<p>My understanding is victim blaming helps the victim blamers feel safe. It is natural to want to feel safe in day-to-day activities, so we are in denial of risk. When something happens which shows the risk then if we can attribute the misfortune to some characteristic or action of the one harmed we can continue to believe that "it won't happen to me".</p>
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<p><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/supersurvivors/201803/why-do-people-blame-the-victim" target="_blank">https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/supersurvivors/201803/why-do-people-blame-the-victim</a></p>
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<p>Of course the rational thing to do is accept we are at risk all of the time. When something bad happens it is because that is how life works. Last year I was in a bad bike crash that put me in the hospital. I recovered, and went straight back to biking and have made no changes. I think many people would not get back on their bike, but that makes no sense if they fully recover. In that case the victim blamers even blame themselves!</p>
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